I Want You To Want Me 3

Being wanted is a pretty base desire in all of us. We all feel the need to be wanted. 

My children, for example, will come to me and say, “I am hungry”. I will say, “OK”. And then, they just kind of stare at me. Why can’t they come up and say, “Dad, may I have something to eat?” They might be truly hungry but maybe they are just not feeling loved. What they want is for me to anticipate their needs and offer them food. That in their mind is the proof that I love them. Mind you, it is not just my kids that do this. 

We all do this from time to time. When someone else does not anticipate our needs, we may get angry that the other person does not notice. We may try to then guilt someone into wanting to help us. This kind of over-powers us to the point that we are unable to see that need in others. 

God anticipates our needs, he really knows what we truly need. Even with God, though, we usually have to ask. We have to humble ourselves to admit that we need help. When I come humbly to God or our fellow man and ask for help, I generally get help. Quite amazing, right? Maybe with our fellow man but not with God. 

I pray that this Easter we will see the hurt and need in others and offer our help. I also pray that we will have the courage to humble ourselves and ask Jesus to give us what we truly need.


About Robert Lindberg

I am a convert to Catholicism and that has been the best thing ever in my life. I am currently in formation for the Diaconate in the Diocese of Austin. I have been married for 28 years to my wife Linda. I have 6 children and 2 grandchildren. I believe that we are all on a journey of discipleship. Some of us move slower than others. All that matters is that you are moving in the right direction. You can contact me at: Robert@DiscipleOnAjourney.org

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3 thoughts on “I Want You To Want Me

  • Brandi Eissinger

    I am absolutely terrible at times with this – getting angry with someone I care about not anticipating my needs. I was recently accused of trying to manipulate a friend of mine because I would pull the "I'm hungry" scenario without stating what I need. He was supposed to know what I wanted. Since being accused of this manipulation, I have been more aware of stating what I need – to this friend, to God, to others.

    God bless,

    • DiscipleOnAJourney Post author

      I keep running into this also. I think I am better than that but no, not really. I do well for a little while then it becomes about ME again. I am glad God is working on me also. For Lent, He asked me to be generous. The nerve. Anyway, glad that He never gives up on me.


    • Brandi Eissinger

      For Lent, He asked me to open up and be more trusting of people. Some times I think God has lost his marbles. 🙂 I'm also glad he never gives up on you… or on me. I will pray that God continues to work on you, and within you.